Choosing the right mattress for you and your partner can have a tremendous impact on the quality of your sleep. We always caution that there is never one “best” mattress, and that certainly applies for couples as well as people that sleep alone, but there are certain things that couples may need to prioritize when mattress shopping.
Particularly, couples who are significantly different weights or have different sleeping preferences should be aware of mattresses that allow customization on each side of the bed. What I’m trying to do is make sure relationships don’t go south because they didn’t do the proper research into what mattress they should get. Hopefully this article will prevent that from happening.
My top mattress picks for couples include mattresses that are high quality, durable, and great value – but also prioritize motion isolation and customization. My three favorites are:
Read below for more details on these mattresses to help decide on which one may be best for you.
When ordering a Helix mattress, you first take a quiz that asks you about your sleep preferences. They will ask you about your firmness preference, sleeping hot/cool preferences, and a few other factors. Then they will personalize your mattress based on your responses.
What’s lesser known about Helix is that you can personalize each side of the bed – meaning you and your partner can both take the quiz and then have each side of the bed customized to each of your preferences. Read HERE to learn more about how this is such a great option for couples. No other mattress at this price point offers anything close to this, making Helix our top mattress for couples pick. Learn more about Helix in our full Helix review.
Loom and Leaf is one of our top reviewed mattresses in general and one of our best mattress for side sleepers winners, but we also recommend it for couples because of its outstanding performance in motion isolation.
Loom & Leaf is a very high quality memory foam mattress (think Tempur-pedic), but it follows an online-only business model, making it significantly more affordable than other mattresses in the market with different specs.
I like this mattress for couples because the motion transfer is simply non-existent. If your partner is kicking and tossing on the other side of the bed, you may not even notice. Learn more about Loom and Leaf in our full Loom and Leaf review.
The downside with Sleep Number is that it tends to be polarizing, with reviews showing that some people love it and some people hate it. The price is also on the high end as well.
If Sleep Number is interesting for you and your partner, I recommend going to a local spot and testing it out – this is not one you want to buy online to see if you like it.
Use the three recommendations above as a starting point, but you may want to branch out. What are the key features that I look for when considering a mattress for a couple?
Having great motion isolation is a nice thing to have for couples, but what’s probably most important is that the mattress is a great fit for both of the individuals. This can be tough if one person is a side sleeper and is on the heavier side, for example, and the other is a back sleeper who is much lighter. There are a lot of factors that determine whether someone will like a particular mattress. That makes it especially difficult to find a great mattress when there are two different sleepers to consider.
Option 1: Find The Right Compromise– You should really dig into the characteristics, sleeping styles, and preferences of both sleepers. See where there is common ground, and potentially there can be a mattress that is a good compromise.
Option 2: If Compromise Just Isn’t Possible, Consider Customized or Adjustable Mattresses– If the sleeping style and preferences of you and your partner are so different that compromise just isn’t possible, then there are still a few options for you. Sleep Number provides adjustable beds where each side of the mattress can have its firmness adjusted. A mattress like that could be an intriguing option.
If you sleep with someone else in the bed, you don’t want their movements to disturb you. The best way to address this is by finding a mattress with good motion isolation. That essentially means if you put pressure on one part of the bed, the other parts don’t feel anything. If you’re in a showroom, try putting an object on the other side of the bed while you’re on it to see if it’s disturbed. Below is a video of me completing the test on the Lull mattress, which performs well.
You don’t necessarily need a special mattress if you are a couple, but it really comes into play if you have different firmness preferences or different weights. Helix is my top recommendation for couples looking to personalize each side of the mattress, but there are a number of different options that will work for each pair depending on what they need.
This post was last updated on February 12th, 2018 at 2:16 pm
Joe is the editor of Mattress Clarity. When he isn't testing sleep products, he enjoys working out, reading, and playing classical piano.